e/u: meditation. mindfulness. equanimity.


Posts in deconstruction
e/u in 2019

Hello there.

I know it’s been a little while since we’ve spoken. In case you missed it, I have spent the last several months having multiple surgeries (and recoveries) due to cervical cancer. It has been a month (to the day) since my final surgery, a total hysterectomy. I have been gratefully declared free of cancer and have been focusing my time on getting back into the groove of life, whatever that happens to mean now.

I have spent a lot of time in the past few months feeling guilty for my neglect of this website, of the Patreon, of social media, etc. I see now that guilt wasn’t really necessary and it caused me to go further away from this work rather than towards it. Luckily, I have not gone further away from my practice, but have only found going deeper the only way to make it through this time.

While all this has been going on, I have struggled a lot with finances. I have missed work for health reasons and life doesn’t look quite like it was supposed to since finishing acupuncture school in July. I have also struggled since the beginning of e/u with how to charge people for these services, how to make a living and also be accessible. I’ve worked in yoga studios and with yoga teachers who had a lot of focus on money and not as much focus on making practices like meditation and yoga truly accessible to those that need it. I have not felt entirely great about the ways in which money has informed some of my business decisions (what to charge, etc).

In order to free myself of this financial guilt and burden and to better align with my desire for all of us to be able to find ways to dismantle the current state of capitalism and re-imagine it, as of January 2019, all of my work will be freely accessible. Donations are welcome as people find themselves able to give, but all classes and offerings going forward will be by donation only.

As far as the Patreon goes, I still really feel drawn to the platform. I also like the idea of giving people the ability to donate on an ongoing basis. I have opted to change the Patreon to one tier: $1. Patreon does allow you to change what your donation is, so you can actually set your own. The only things that patrons receive at this time that others do not is advance access to blogs, videos, podcasts and so on, as well as access to the Soundcloud Archive. Otherwise, everything will be open to everyone, regardless of the ability to pay.

While I have always had a policy of either donations, sliding scales, and so on, I have never really truly allowed people to simply have access. There was always an extra hoop to jump through in order to join a class for free, for example. I know that this can cause some negative feelings of shame or lack. I want everyone who comes in contact with my work to find it of benefit regardless of their financial means.

That said, there are administrative costs (web hosting, etc) with all of this, so donations are extremely helpful in order to keep everything going and to allow me to have time to focus on this work. So I do hope you will consider a donation when signing up for an offering, but if you don’t want to or can’t? I hold no judgment and no negative feelings. I simple hope you find what I offer helpful to you.

As January comes, I’ll be adding more offerings. Right now, you can book an individual session with me. I am taking on more of this work slowly and hope to be able to do some more classes, write some more about my recent experiences with practice, and a revamp of the old 30 Day Sit is coming too.

I hope 2019 brings us all adventures, gifts, and much practice.

Learning to Swim

Between getting the cervical cancer diagnosis and my first surgery, I went a little crazy. Maybe no one is surprised by that given the circumstances, but I kind of have been in retrospect.

We take all of this time to train in meditation, to get to know our ups and downs, to bring more awareness to the ebb and flow of life as well as our feelings and reactivity. We think maybe… just maybe… we have some sort of handle on something. Then a big thing hits and BAM. We find ourselves spinning anyway. What was all that time even for?

Well… imagine if I hadn’t done all of that training already. I may have slipped straight off the side and into the deep end without knowing any swim techniques. As it was, I still had things to keep me afloat, even if the water was just about at head height and I was on my tippy toes. I may be mixing some water metaphors here, but hopefully you get what I’m saying.

All of that said, I really did surprise myself in the ways I did not go crazy. Facing a surgery of any kind, I tend to be a bit nervous and scared (as can be understood). Anesthesia is no joke and having anyone take a knife anywhere (especially into the most sensitive parts of your body) is not something you wake up hoping happens on just any random day.

But the surgery was not random. I waited six weeks between my first procedure/diagnosis and that first surgery. My body had to heal in between. As those six weeks came to a close, I started to feel a rather strange calm. I was working with my breath in some way every day. The day of the surgery, I didn’t cry or find myself worrying too much. I took a few quiet moments to myself as I changed from my clothes to the hospital gown. Any time my heartbeat started to go up on the monitor, I tuned into my breath and brought myself back to a more regular speed. I hadn’t lost it completely after all.

As I’ve gotten back around to my Regularly Scheduled Meditation Practice (and not just taking the bits and pieces the day gives me), it has also been good to feel the roots extending again. This week, I’ll find out more about the next surgery I’ll have (“the big one” as I like to call it) and I’m hoping I can do things a little differently this time. As in, maybe not lose my mind quite so much to begin with. There are still hard things to come, but what an experience to see how it all goes and find out in new ways how the tools and practices and little bits of magic fit in.


In thinking about writing this blog or posting anything on the e/u social media or Patreon, I kept coming up blank. Where do I start? What do I say?

So we’ll start from the beginning.

In August, I was diagnosed with very early stage cervical cancer. As you might imagine, this threw my world for quite the loop. My boyfriend and I were getting ready to move, I had had some other medical things going on, I still hadn’t taken my acupuncture licensing board exams, etc. Because we caught it early, we anticipated from the beginning two surgeries: one that would hopefully find the margins of the cancer and another, a hysterectomy.

Cancer was never something that I thought I’d face personally, but with something like 1 in 2.5 people being diagnosed with some form of cancer, it shouldn’t be surprising. Cervical cancer itself is a pretty rare these days with the regular use of Pap smears, but it still happens and (like many gynecological cancers) it often doesn’t have a lot of remarkable symptoms. After finding out more about it myself, I had a lot of “ohhhhh….” moments.

Having the word “cancer” thrown around a lot in your general direction kind of gets your brain working on different cylinders. As someone who planned to live for as long as humanly possible, what on earth would it mean for that? What does the rest of my life look like after this? I don’t want children, but it’s still weird to have to have the choice taken away from me because… cancer. What are the lifestyle changes I need to make? What sort of plans or “affairs” need to be put in order?

I remember that there was a very specific time when I decided that I didn’t want to die. My prognosis from the beginning has been good, but regardless of that cancer is scary. It gets you to face mortality in a different way. For the most part, I try to be at peace with the idea that we inevitably all must leave our bodies, but I had a very specific moment of “No, not yet.”

On October 5th, I had my first surgery. Leading up to it, I worked very hard on staying close to my breath, being prepared for post-surgery, and so on. The surgery went well! We found out last week that there were clear margins and everything looks good for my next surgery in another month or so. I’ve had some unexpected hiccups along the healing path, but no major complications. I’ll meet with my doctor in another week to go over the next step thoroughly.

Since diagnosis and all the whirlwind of other things going on (who knew moving was stressful?), I have stepped away from e/u to focus on life. What’s happened has been a bit of a deconstructing process. I’ve had to look at lots of areas of life and see what’s helping or hurting. I’ve had to find my willingness to accept and ask for help (from my boyfriend running an errand to friends bringing food or setting up a gofundme), which is not an easy thing for me. I’ve had to look at my own expectations of what a day looks like or what my timeline of life looks like. It is sort of as if every area has had to take a little piece from here or there to cobble together what life is for the time being.

In the deconstruction, my practice looks a little different now too. I’m meeting the moment as it is in a new way and bringing a different awareness to each day. I don’t sit as formally, though this is something I am steering back toward. It’s been an interesting ride and experience to find the places in the day where the breath fits, where the awareness catches. I watched my heart rate change with my own breathing while waiting in pre-op. My chanting practices have been with me throughout this experience so far, but I am also interested in getting them back to a more formal setting. I’m starting to further experiment working with pain, the breath, and visualization. I’ve had to re-assess what yoga looks like for now.

I’m honestly quite grateful for this taking apart and rebuilding. It isn’t the process I’d have asked for, if I’d had a say. I had expected life to look a lot different around now. But this is it for the time being and we do what we can with it.

So what does all this have to do with e/u? I am happy to start offering a little something.

I’m hoping to be a little more present and engaged on social media, the blog, and so on. But more importantly, I’m starting to offer individual meditation sessions. For now, these will be available via phone or FaceTime and run 30-45 minutes. I’m not setting a sliding scale for these, but rest assured that no one will be turned away if it’s outside of your budget (just contact me to schedule). Hit the button below to book a spot.

I hope to see your name on my schedule and to spend some time in meditation and mindfulness with you. As life continues to change, I’m hoping to offer a little more as I am able.

Take good care of yourself and we’ll talk soon. <3